Diving Into Dyspraxia
Dyspraxia
is a form of Developmental Coordination Disorder which affects fine and/or
gross motor coordination in children and adults. It can also have an impact on
speech. There is no cure at present.
I
have never really been told when it all started for me. So this article touches
upon some of the challenges Dyspraxia presents along with the impact they had
on me as a child, prior to my diagnosis at the age of eighteen.
Please
remember that the condition affects people in different ways. With that in mind
let us begin.
Gross Motor
Skills
Many
with Dyspraxia will have some problems with gross motor skills. These skills are
ones that use large muscles to create body movements for example walking,
running and maintaining balance.
I
have often found playing sports like athletics and football a real difficulty.
This was a particular issue each year at primary school when we had Sports Day.
We were all required to take part in games like throwing beanbags into
hula-hoops and had to enter into running races. Often I would miss the hoop or
not win the race, but I still tried despite there being some
disappointment.
Schools
should give students a choice of what events they would like to take part in.
It is not correct to force anyone into something they may not have the
self-confidence to do. Teachers, families and friends need to give this support
so those with the condition have the self-esteem to perform any games they would like to take
part in.
See if you can spot me in this photograph on Sports Day in July 2005 |
Fine Motor
Skills
Similarly
those with Dyspraxia generally have problems with fine motor skills. These
involve small muscle movements, such as using cutlery, handwriting and playing
musical instruments.
These
do impact me in everyday life. It can be frustrating not being able to do
something the first time. I remember trying to learn how to tie my shoelaces on
holiday just before my eleventh birthday. Before this I would always wear shoes
with velcro straps. My parents would show me how to tie the laces but my mind
just could not get around to doing it properly. The loop was either too small,
way too big, or the laces would not fit together.
Over
time I gradually got the hang of tying shoelaces. I will admit that even now I
do have occasional problems with them. They often do come loose after a
while. Still I am glad to have learnt. So it is important to have someone
patient teaching you because it will take time. Then again there is nothing
wrong with having velcro straps or slip on shoes if you just simply cannot get
it. What is important is feeling good about yourself no matter which option you
pick.
Clumsiness
Those with Dyspraxia generally have a lack of awareness of their body position. This can result in bumping into, tripping over or spilling things.
Since
I could crawl I would often bang myself into objects around the room causing an
‘egg bump’ on my head. This clumsiness still follows me now. It is amazing the
amount of objects that I have dropped, broken, spilt or bumped into.
Interestingly
is that it is believed that many do have a good sense of humour. So
if you ever see one of us fall over or drop something you may find us laughing
about it afterwards. Well, as long as we were not badly hurt or that object was
not worth a fortune.
Forming
Relationships
It
can be quite difficult to form relationships. There may be isolation within the
peer group or those with Dyspraxia may unfortunately be rejected by others
because of their differences. Those with the disability may sometimes misinterpret what
someone is trying to say or how that person is feeling, which could cause
alienation.
Of
course this is not always the cause. Those with the condition often display
positive attributes such as being kind, empathetic and forgiving. It is these
which often shine through and help build close bonds with those around them.
It
did take me quite a while to find people I wanted to be friends with. Still
they are there no matter the troubles I may be facing and I cannot thank them
enough.
Speech, Language
and Words
Those
living with the condition may experience issues with speech, language or words,
either in the form of talking or writing. Organising, planning and proofreading
can also be affected.
Throughout
primary school I hated English and would often get low grades. Because of this
my secondary school placed me and a few others in something called ‘Learning
Support’. Instead of learning a second language, like French or German, we
spent the time improving our literary skills. Thanks to the utter dedication of
the staff during those three years I began to enjoy the subject and my grades
increased. Now I am studying English Literature and Creative Writing at
university.
Of
course I still have difficulties, but those dedicated people helped me to
thoroughly like English, which is something I would have struggled with
otherwise.
This
‘Good Luck’ card was kindly given to me by the Learning Support staff on
leaving secondary school
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It
would seem that Dyspraxia has been present right throughout my childhood. It is
a lifelong condition, but with continual support from loving and
non-judgemental people hopefully those with the disability will gain the
confidence to thrive and flourish in society. Remember these people are not
only Dyspraxic but they can also be fantastic.
Thanks to everyone who reads and shares this article to help raise awareness for Dyspraxia.
ReplyDeleteBrilliant article Jake. Thanks for sharing some of your memories. I'll look forward to reading more in the future.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much! I'm really glad you enjoyed the article. Those memories will definitely stay with me throughout my life. There will be plenty on more articles on Dyspraxia soon.
DeleteI'm definitely sharing this wonder piece, thanks
ReplyDeletePlease do as it really does me a great deal to me. Thanks for your comment.
Deletefabulous Jake . going to give this to my son. he.s 12 dropped French and in learning support. bumps and bruises galore growing up. isolated by his friends at the end of year 7. you are am inspiration.
ReplyDeleteAww that is so kind of you to say. Your son is also an inspiration for battling through such a difficult condition at his age, and so are you for supporting him. Please do give him this article. I hope it helps him in some way. All the best to you and your family. I hope you have a happy future because you do deserve it.
DeleteThanks for sharing your story Jake I have a 7 year old son who has DCD so I appreciate the challenges you face. It is so important to hear these positive outcomes as books are often so negative & I know my son like you has so many positive attributes. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your kind words. Comments like yours are reason why I keep on writing. Your son is so very brave for having DCD at such a young age. I am sure he is also extremely wonderful child, especially with the all the support you are giving him. It is great to hear he has so many positive attributes, and let them continue. All the best.
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